Tips to prepare and support you over the holiday

As we come towards the winter solstice our natural tendency is to go inwards to reflect on the year gone and plant seeds for the year ahead. The arrival of Christmas with its expectations, commercialism and family gatherings is the exact opposite! Here are some ideas to help you keep calm and enjoy ChristmasTips to prepare and support you over the holiday

Take an active role in planning:

  • Start a new tradition
  • Choose what works best for you – an activity, venue, timing, catering etc., start and end time.
  • Schedule a walk or create space for those who need time out.
  • Set a positive intention for the event.
  • Decide to make the best of a less than ideal situation.

Remember:

  • Nothing is every personal.
  • It is not compulsory to take part in the drama.
  • You don’t always have to be right.
  • Other opinions are allowed!
  • Its ok to say “that doesn’t work for me”.
  • Your response or reaction is the only thing that you can control.

Ask yourself:

  • Are my expectations realistic (life is not idyllic as portrayed in the media)
  • Will it matter in an hour, a day or a week?

Be kind to yourself:

  • Avoid too many commitments.
  • Schedule some me/couple/treat time.
  • Take a one or two minute break and breathe deeply, inhale love, exhale negative thoughts.
  • Do things that make you smile/laugh.
  • Give yourself a hug or pat on the back – sometimes getting up/through the day is a major achievement.
  • You are the best you in the whole universe.

Simple treats:

  • Self-massage with warm sesame oil
    Sesame oil is widely used in ayurveda and can help ground and calm promoting sleep. It is widely available in independent health food shops and online. Avoid the toasted variety unless you want to smell like a stir fry! Coconut oil or specialist ayurvedic massage oils are also available.
  • Treat yourself to a good book, or film
  • Listen to some relaxing or inspirational music
  • Light scented candles, or vaporiser
  • Take a candle lit bath.
  • Book a yoga course and relaxation events 🙂

1:1 Sessions

  • Yoga therapy
  • Sound therapy/healing
  • Personal development/healing with Suzan
    Are you at a crossroads? Navigating challenging changes and transitions? Looking for answers and meaning in your life?
    Suzan will support, guide & empower you to make lasting, positive change.

3 Steps to Success Proof your New Years Resolutions

What is your vision for 2023? What do you want more of and what is ready for change? Birth your vision into reality with a simple intention/goal setting structure.

1. Start Smart!
Get super clear on your intention by making sure it is:
✅ specific – clear and expressed positively
✅ measurable – ‘I will attend 3 yoga classes each calendar month’
✅ achievable – do you have the resources – equipment, knowledge needed?
✅ realistic/relevant – is it sustainable over a longer period?
✅ timely – when will you have achieved your intention?


2. Success Focused

The longer the timeframe the more unexpected events can happen. Consider maximum 3 months and create small steps/targets towards your goal. Celebrate and acknowledge your progress. It’s great to review/amend. It will keep on track for success. 

3. Sagha / Community

New habits take time. It is easier with support. Who will be your cheer leader? Perhaps
💥 Like-minded friend and
💥 Your community
Stuff will come up as part of change. It’s just the way it is. Look out for negativity and become aware of previously unconscious patterns. This is a huge progress! Now it is possible to change them. It will be easier with others. Someone who will lovingly nudge you and say what you need to hear with compassion. a person who has and continues to do their own healing and really gets it.

Need help getting started? Email me to book a  chat.

Here’s to new adventures and possibilities.

With love
Suzan
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3 Steps to Success Proof your New Years Resolutions

1. Start Smart!
Is you resolution SMART? specific, measurable, achievable, realistic, timely. It can be upgraded but over ambitious goals can trigger our inner critic/judge and feed into unhelpful behaviours.

2. Success Focused

Set mini goals/targets which lead towards your resolution. These can be checked weekly/monthly and amended to help you succeed. Celebrate each win and use it to motivate action on the next step.

3. Sangha / Community

Who will motivate, hold you accountable and facilitate healing and changes needed? This can be one person or several. Any relationship, habit, belief etc. which is not in alignment with your resolution will need to be healed and upgraded. This brings us back to step 1, start smart!

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The Art of Relaxation

Relaxation is a valuable self-care tool. It is a NECESSITY if we want to maintain or return to optimal well-being.

Whatever is happening in the world you can create and maintain stability in your little world – room or home, and in your inner world – your body, mind and emotions.

✔Create a routine with little activities or breaks to look forward to.
✔Draw, paint or buy pictures, photos, or ornaments that evoke stability and/or joy
✔Focus on something positive – resume or take up a new hobby
✔Grow plants or vegetables
✔Reduce screen time and choose positive content.

These will reduce anxiety levels and help the nervous system settle into relaxation.

Here is a simple process to help relaxation response become active, homeostasis to return and create a sense of well-being.

  • Lie with legs bent or sit
  • Notice how your body feels, get really curious – your body holds much wisdom, what comes into your awareness
  • Watch your breathing, is it fast, slow, steady, erratic, etc
  • Focus on your exhale
  • Gradually increase the length of the exhale while maintaining a comfortable inhale remains (up to twice the length of the inhale)
  • It is natural for the mind to wander, when you notice this use loving awareness to return your focus to the exhale
  • Avoid judgement, criticism or blaming a trigger person or event
  • Check in with your body regularly inviting any tense areas to relax
  • Stay for 5 minutes, longer if you have time especially if feeling anxious/agitated.
  • Make regular time in your schedule for this practice and take mini 3 breath practices as often as possible during the day.

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Keep Calm and Enjoy Christmas

4 Tips to prepare and support you over the holiday

Take an active role in planning:
• Start a new tradition
• Choose what works best for you – an activity, venue, timing, catering etc., start and end time.
• Schedule a walk or create space for those who need time out.
• Set a positive intention for the event.
• Decide to make the best of a less than ideal situation.

Remember:
• Nothing is every personal.
• It is not compulsory to take part in the drama.
• You don’t always have to be right.
• Other opinions are allowed!
• Its ok to say “that doesn’t work for me”.
• Your response or reaction is the only thing that you can control.

Ask yourself:
• Are my expectations realistic (life is not idyllic as portrayed in the media)
• Will it matter in an hour, a day or a week?

Be kind to yourself:
• Avoid too many commitments.
• Schedule some me/couple/treat time.
• Take a one or two-minute break and breathe deeply, inhale love, exhale negative thoughts.
• Do things that make you smile/laugh.
• Give yourself a hug or pat on the back – sometimes getting up/through the day is a major achievement.
• You are the best you in the whole universe.

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The Chakras

Imagine a river with 7 swirling pools, the water is your life force energy and the pools are the chakras.  when you experience a state or emotion that relates to a specific chakra your energy flow becomes disturbed or blocked.

The first chakra, Muladhara Chakra, means root support, it is linked to the earth and your earliest experiences.  The modern way of life, with much time spent on social media, city living, supermarket shopping all contribute to a disconnection from the earth and blockages in the root chakra.

Whether you want to create better health, more abundance and passion or to remove challenges in your life, balancing your root chakra is the key.

b54af53f16424569d8dbb6c3508fc63dThe root chakra is associated with:

  • The colour red
  • Hatha yoga
  • Ruby, garnet and hematitite
  • The Adrenals
  • Legs, feet, bones and large intestine

Supporting your Root Chakra

Here are a couple of practices for you to experiment with.  Have fun!

foot massage

Massage helps reconnect you with the physical body:  Regular sessions are highly recommended.  Try massaging your feet between sessions. Ayurvedic foot massage uses warm sesame, brahmi, or jatamansi oil.

red
Meditate on the the colour red.  You can use a red candle, an image or simply bring the colour red to your inner awareness.  Start with a few minutes and gradually build up.

protein
Eat Protein animal or vegetable (avoid over eating though).

barefoot walking

Walk barefoot, feel the earth against your skin, let her support you.  Notice the sensations in your feet.  This focused awareness will calm and stabalise your body and mind.

 

relaxation

It is very important not to miss the relaxation part of a yoga session.  When you relax, focus on each part of your body, inviting it to let go, notice your breath. Your nervous system now has time to settle.

“New Beginnings”

“The whole world’s broke and it ain’t worth fixing,
It’s time to start all over, make a new beginning,
There’s too much pain, too much suffering,
Let’s resolve to start all over make a new beginning.
Now don’t get me wrong I love life and living,
But when you wake up and look around at everything that’s going down,
All wrong.
You see we need to change it now, this world with too few happy endings
We can resolve to start all over make a new beginning,
Start all over
The world is broken into fragments and pieces,
That once were joined together in a unified whole,
But now too many stand alone,
There’s too much separation,
We can resolve to come together in the new beginning.
We can break the cycle – We can break the chain,
We can start all over – In the new beginning.
We can learn, we can teach,
We can share the myths, the dream, the prayer,
The notion that we can do better,
Change our lives and paths,
Create a new world,
And Start all over.
The whole world’s broke and it ain’t worth fixing,
It’s time to start all over, make a new beginning.
There’s too much fighting, too little understanding,
It’s time to stop and start all over,
Make a new beginning,
We need to make new symbols,
Make new signs,
Make a new language,
With these we’ll define the world,
And start all over.”

 

Tracy Chapman

For a New Beginning

A Blessing by John O’Donohue from ‘Benedictus, A book of blessings’

In out-of-the-way places of the heart,
Where your thoughts never think to wander,
This beginning has been quietly forming,
Waiting until you were ready to emerge.

For a long time it has watched your desire,
Feeling the emptiness growing inside you,
Noticing how you willed yourself on,
Still unable to leave what you had outgrown.

It watched you play with the seduction of safety
And the grey promises that sameness whispered,
Heard the waves of turmoil rise and relent,
Wondered would you always live like this.

Then the delight, when your courage kindled,
And out you stepped onto new ground,
Your eyes young again with energy and dream,
A path of plenitude opening before you.

Reflection

Look at me
You may think you see
Who I really am
But you’ll never know me
Every day
It’s as if I play a part
Now I see
If I wear a mask
I can fool the world
But I cannot fool my heart
Who is that girl I see
Staring straight back at me?
When will my reflection show
Who I am inside?
I am now
In a world where I
Have to hide my heart
And what I believe in
But somehow
I will show the world
What’s inside my heart
And be loved for who I am
Who is that girl I see
Staring straight back at me?
Why is my reflection
Someone I don’t know?
Must I pretend that I’m
Someone else for all time?
When will my reflection show
Who I am inside?
There’s a heart that must be
Free to fly
That burns with a need to know
The reason why
Why must we all conceal
What we think, how we feel?
Must there be a secret me
I’m forced to hide?
I won’t pretend that I’m
Someone else for all time
When will my reflection show
Who I am inside?
When will my reflection show
Who I am inside?
~ Christine Aguilera, Reflection:

I am a Tree

I am a tree

Which stands by the path you tread.

If you can learn something from me

Stay awhile.

I cannot take you my way

Because my roots

Are in my own piece of ground,

And my branches

Reach up to my own personal sky.

If you wish to lean

Against me for a time

And warm in the sun

Which filters through my leaves

Then share my stillness

And become one with me.

But do not stay too long –

Or part of yourself

Will become lost within me.

Do not take one of my branches

To use as a prop

For even I am unaware

Of which are strong or weak.

In looking at me

Reflect on what you didn’t know

And make it your own truth,

I will not impede the path you tread

But I hope I have helped

To make your journey

Worthwhile.

 

The Teacher by Barbara Griggs

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I am

The moon lights the night sky and

I am visible

The dawn chorus fills the air and

I am heard

The sunset takes my breath away

I am a success

The bonfire gives heat and light as it transforms

I give thanks for the gift of my experiences

Spring, summer, autumn, winter; rain, sun and snow

Everything that happens is perfect and

I accept myself

Mother earth gives me abundance, joy, love, peace, calmness, clarity, grace and ease

I give thanks

I am worthy

I am at peace with the world

I am at peace with other people

I am at peace with myself

I am

 

This is about me, its about you, its about everyone